I was playing footsie with the neighbor should I tell my hubby?

I have been married for 4 years my husband is a good man but he's boring.He's a traditional Chinese man but doesn't make me feel"like a woman".He invited our neighbor over for dinner.He was about 25(Im 35 Asian) but we were eating dinner and could tell the neighbor "Jim" was flirting with me with his eyes and I was getting hot.So I kicked off my shoe under the table and brushed my stocking foot against Jims leg.I was rubbing my foot on his pantleg just to get some contact with him.He started feeling my foot with his and my hubby had no idea what was going on under the table.We touched our feet for 5 minuites then I backed off because I was getting hot.Did I cheat on my hubby?Was this just a spur of the moment thing?To be honest I don't know what will happen if Jim comes over for dinner again?But I feel so guilty.

I was playing footsie with the neighbor should I tell my hubby?
You might have hit your hubbys leg instead !!!!
Reply:don't feel guitly............ i'm up 4 some footsies!!!
Reply:?
Reply:Tell him, but make it into a kind of funny joke?
Reply:I wouldn't say anything to the husband unless you want to end your relationship. Just let it go. If your having feeling for other people maybe its time for you to move on. Weigh the pros and cons of your marriage and make the decision.
Reply:You've betrayed him in your heart and that's enough. You wont be square with the house until your husband has forgiven you. Who knows, you may just find out that he too was playing footsy with Jim. Or that he invited Jim over because he's not nearly as boring as you may have believed.
Reply:sounds very childish!
Reply:Sounds like you're not very faithful. Cheating is defined by the individuals in a relationship. For me, cheating is when I do something (anything) with another guy that I know my bf wouldn't do.


Here's a question, what would happen if Jim came over when your husband wasn't home?


Would you send him away or not?


If you wouldn't, you need to take a long, hard look at youself and your marriage.
Reply:WOW!!! yes that is considered a form of cheatin and the fact that you did it rite in front of your husband just show s that you dont really care about him
Reply:yes i feel this could be looked at as cheating, I think i would stay away from the neighbor at all cost, or more will happen, i am not sure if you are into that however that is a little to close to home in my opioin.
Reply:Woh! I don't think this is something you should mention that's the kinda thing that could start alot of drama and it was with your neighbor it's not like you won't have to deal with it everyday trust me just don't say anything cause your husband would prolly do the same thing I would
Reply:its fine you just want to have fun... dont tell him so if you get lonely you can call him :)
Reply:Yes you cheated, the fact that it was a "spur of the moment" thing is irrelevent. If you jumped into bed with him, does the fact that it was a spur of the moment thing make any difference? No, it doesn't.
Reply:Careful, just the other day an asian man asked about this question about his asian wife and the caucasian guest. From the sound of it, the asian man was no where near a comfort zone about this situation. One of his question was whether he should confront his wife and tell her he knows she's flirting with the white guy.





If some woman was flirting and play footsie with your husband, would that p*ss you off? If you're going to play footsie or flirt with someone, don't do it in front of your husband. He may be boring, but he's not dumb.
Reply:who plays "footsie" this day in age?
Reply:um you didnt cheat on him... ok theres no point in telling him something that wasnt seriouse and getting him upset over nothing... but you do need to communicate with him about this issue


if you dont have intamacy and affection in a marrige then its doomed
Reply:Do not do it anymore
Reply:I can tell you're really not happy in your marriage, and I think it will only be a matter of time until you do really cheat on him, unless you can work things out to make your marriage more exciting. It wasnt exactly cheating, but its still very bad and shows affection for your neighbour. Your husband would be very upset if he knew. You know you want something to happen again because its exciting, giving you much more than what your husband gives you. But you're playing with fire, either make your marriage work or get out of it. Dont play around.
Reply:wow thats sounds brilliant....i know its bad but it also feels nice when somebody shows an interest to you...it makes you feel wanted again... you must be attracted to this fella...i wouldnt count it as cheating just be so careful not to take it further. You shouldnt feel guilty.



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